Wednesday, October 18, 2006

Generation NeXt Parenting
Tricia Goyer's Newest Book
(*Win this book: See the end of this post!)

After browsing this book and reading excerpts,
I see how busy parents can pick it up and read
it in bite-size chunks, enjoying the magazine-like
format and the practical advice and encouragement
from other parents of their generation. Following
are a summary of the book, as well as questions
answered by the author.
Generation NeXt Parenting is unlike any other book
on the market and represents a new adventure in
parenting. Written by Tricia Goyer, a Gen X mom
herself, it takes readers on a walk down memory lane to learn what defines them as a generation and how they can parlay their own insecurities, hopes, and dreams into bright futures for their children. With its easy-to-read, conversational style, fun pop culture references, practical tips, and real-life examples from families who harbor the same doubts, questions, and concerns,

Generation NeXt Parenting strips away external distractions to focus on what it takes to raise kids into productive citizens and servants for God.

“As a Gen Xer who graduated from high school in 1989, the way I parent is different from the generations who’ve gone before me,” says Goyer. “I want to do it all—find God’s purpose in my life, impact my community, support my spouse, and provide my children every opportunity available to them. My generation is serious about parenting—just look at all we expect from our children and ourselves! This book offers solutions to our unique questions and confirms that we can ‘parent right’—even if it looks nothing like the way our own parents did it. More importantly, this book focuses on seeking God’s Word and wisdom for answers to growing a new generation of God-seekers.”

Generation NeXt Parenting is an insightful new book that helps readers balance kids, ministry, work, and service, teaching them how to be better parents for God’s glory. More than just another parenting book filled with unrealistic expectations for raising “perfect” children, Generation NeXt Parenting offers real advice, next steps, and biblical references than can easily be applied to everyday living situations. A powerful resource, it is positioned to spawn a whole new breed of parents readily equipped to make a positive difference, not only in the lives of their children, but for generations to come.
The Story Behind the Book: Q & A With Tricia Goyer

Q: What was the impetus to write Generation NeXt Parenting?
A: It all started when I was at a parenting meeting last year. Most of the other mothers were older than me. (Sigh, I had my first son when I was 17 in 1989. Most mothers with the same age kids are ten years older.) Anyway, they were talking about "all the young mothers these days . . . they want everything for their kids and don't know when to stop." They went on and on, but I can't remember it all. I just remember thinking, That's me they're talking about, and they don't get me at all!When I got home, I started looking up everything I could find about how different generations raise kids differently. Amazingly, I found there are many, many differences. So I talked to my agent, and mentioned I wanted to write a book specifically for Gen X parents. I wanted to talk about our unique needs--not as an expert, but as one of them. I wrote up a proposal in a few week's time. A few months later I had a contract offer. I felt God's hand all over me as I wrote (fast). And, it's a miracle, but about 14 months after I got the idea the book is on store shelves. Is that God, or what?!

Q: Why Gen X?

A: More than 44 million Generation Xers live in the United States today. This group is bound to have a strong influence, not only on society as a whole, but more specifically, on the next generation—our children. There’s no denying that the world is a vastly different place from the one we grew up in, and we are faced with a whole new set of parenting challenges our predecessors could never have fathomed. But Gen Xers have proven we have the passion and drive to excel in childrearing. This book is to help with that.

Q: How are Gen Xers different?

A: As a Gen Xer who graduated from high school in 1989, the way I parent is unique from the generations who’ve gone before me. Personally, I want to do it all—find God’s purpose in my life, impact my community, support my spouse, and provide my children every opportunity available to them. My generation is serious about parenting—just look at all we expect from our children and ourselves!

Q: If you could tell people in two sentences what this book is about, what would you say?

A: This book offers solutions to our unique questions and confirms that we can ‘parent right’—even if it looks nothing like the way our own parents did it. More importantly, this book focuses on seeking God’s Word and wisdom for answers to growing a new generation of God-seekers.

Q: Can you give me a hint of why Gen Xers raise their kids differently than their parents?

A: There are plenty of reasons Gen Xers turned out the way we did. Here are some biggies:
• More of our moms entered the workforce.
• More of our parents divorced.
• Either we were sexually promiscuous or we had friends who were.
• When it came to drugs and alcohol, it was pretty easy to get our hands on them.
• We don’t remember prayer as a part of school.
• We do remember every episode of The Cosby Show, and oftentimes we related more to that family than our own.
• We remember the first video we saw on MTV, and musicians like Bruce Springsteen, Tiffany, and Billy Idol were our, uh, idols.
Of course, I could go on, but this book wasn’t written just to reminisce about “the good ol’ days.” It’s about understanding who we are as a generation and why we became the parents we are today. More than that, it’s about taking our good qualities…and discovering how to parent better, for God’s glory.

Q: If you could pray one prayer for Gen X parents, what would it be?

A: Ephesians 1:16–21, new living translation
“I pray for you constantly, asking God, the glorious Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you might grow in your knowledge of God. I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the wonderful future he has promised to those he called. I want you to realize what a rich and glorious inheritance he has given to his people.
“I pray that you will begin to understand the incredible greatness of his power for us who believe him. This is the same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead and is far above any ruler or authority or power or leader or anything else in the world or in the world to come. Amen.”
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Monday, October 02, 2006

TIME IN A BOTTLE

If you're younger than I am, you may not remember this song by Jim Croce. Time in a Bottle describes a love relationship in which the lover wishes he could save moments of time to spend with the one he loves.

If I could put time in a bottle,
the first thing that I'd like to do
is to save every day till eternity passes away,
just to spend them with you.
But there never seems to be enough time
to do the things you wanna do,
once you find them.

This month I celebrate a milestone birthday--mainly meaning, now I can get a senior plate for a bargain price at my husband's favorite pancake house. Lately, with no particular age or birthday in mind, but rather aging in general, I diagnosed myself with Time in a Bottle Syndrome. In other words, similarly to the new TV show Twenty Good Years, I want to cram everything possible into my remaining days. There are things I want to do. Things I need to do. Things I love to do. Things I am afraid to do.

The question is, what does God want me to do with the rest of my life? I believe He wants me to enjoy it. Look at the amazing things He created for us to enjoy. He even gave us our capacity for enjoyment. This doesn't mean I'm devoting the rest of my life to seeking pleasure. For its own sake, pleasure is empty. Appreciating and relishing Him and the beauty of all the wonders He created, including our fellow humans. Seeking to give ourselves and our gifts away to others in some manner that is joyful and meaningful to us. That's what I'm talking about.

Sand slips through the hourglass, minutes tick off the timer. Am I making those moments count? Do I squeeze out all the life I can from what life I have left? Is time spilling out of the bottle, or am I spending it on the things that count?

Show me, O Lord, my life's end
and the number of my days;
let me know how fleeting is my life.
You have made my days a mere handbreadth;
the span of my years is as nothing before You.
Each man's life is but a breath.
--Psalm 39:4 & 5

Teach us to number our days aright,
that we may gain a heart of wisdom. . .
May the favor of the Lord our God rest upon us;
establish the work of our hands for us--
yes, establish the work of our hands.
--Psalm 90:12 & 17